Resources

In "Beyond Behaviors," internationally renowned pediatric psychologist Dr. Mona Delahooke explains that behaviors are merely the tip of the iceberg—vital signals that require understanding a child's unique differences within the context of relational safety. 

If "violent" means acting in ways that cause hurt or harm, then much of our communication—judging others, bullying, exhibiting racial bias, blaming, finger-pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting in anger, using political rhetoric, being defensive, or labeling people as "good/bad" or "right/wrong"—can indeed be considered "violent communication." 

Inside, you'll find a radically different approach to parenting, focusing less on how to get children to behave and more on examining our own behaviors, expectations, and values as parents.

Embracing the idea that our children deserve our honesty, vulnerability, and leadership, you'll discover a powerful framework for raising your family with integrity and confidence.